DYNAMICS OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS

Human relationships are complex, to say the least. If not handled with care, they will become complicated. Once complicated, in all probability, when they run its full course, would become irretrievable and irreconcilable. The complexity of human relationships, need not become complicated, if we know what goes into any human relationships – the dynamics of it.

One – IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO! – A rubber ball will bounce back, only when the hand has strength to throw it, and the surface is firm enough to send it back. If not, the whole effort just fizzles away.

Two – WE ARE SAME AND DIFFERENT, AT THE SAME TIME! – None can use infra-red light to illuminate a room. We have to use the normal light. Even though both are light rays, they both are worlds apart. Unless we are aware of it, and make effort to get to know and understand, our efforts, however sincere, would just fizzle away. People, though belong to the same family of homosapiens, have their individual personalities, that differ vastly from each other.

Three – WE HAVE OUR OWN LIMITATIONS AND SHORTCOMINGS – Though the human ear is designed to hear, we cannot hear all sounds. There are some sound waves, which are above our frequency level, and some below our frequency level. If we are not aware of our limitations, we will stumble into problems, for sure. *Awareness of our personal limitations, will greatly help in the success of every human relationship. 

Knowledge, that we operate on different wavelengths, at different times…and that, nothing is fixed and permanent, will greatly help us, in hearing the sounds, which we may normally miss, in any relationship. If we are not aware of it, and tuned to it, we simply can’t hear the other person. This leads to confusion and complications, resulting in failure.

Four – WE ARE TWO PEOPLE, WITH TWO SIDES. – We need to know, that in any and every relationship, there are always two sides. Both sides need to put in effort, proportionately and appropriately, for a meaningful outcome. Not as simple as said, for we are fallen human beings.

Five – WE DESIRE PERFECTION AS AN IDEAL…ADJUSTMENT IS THE REALITY – We also need to be aware, that there is no perfect match. Adjustments and fine-tunings have to be made, by everyone, all the time. How we adapt and adjust is a good indicator of how much we want the other person badly, and how much are we willing, to step out of our comfort zone, to adjust, accommodate, and to sacrifice, for the other person, to be in our lives.

Have a great day!!!